Ladies, gather here I tell you how to make that man you have eyed for long, and he is not making attempts or insinuating putting a ring in that manicured finger. Or you are seeing him, but he seem to enjoy it that way. Please draw nearer, that I may tell you how to make him love you for ‘what not you are’ but what he is looking for.
I know you have heard or seen or maybe, experienced; you could be all a woman should be to a man, and he still left you for another he met for a couple of hours! You know, someone once said, men are from Mars and women from Venus? These individuals are two different beings.
Women are loud thinkers and men are in-mind thinkers. While ladies, outwardly speak their thoughts, men on the other hand prefer doing the action than the talking. So, how then can you make him do the action of engaging that beautiful index finger with a probable diamond ring?
- Be a virtuous woman
Proverbs, 31: 10-31 “Who can find a virtuous woman? She is worth far more than rubies.” Someone virtuous is someone with moral standing. How then can you display this rare character? We all tend to blend and make some good impression. As much as you try to show your wit, withhold those characters that will make a potential lover cringe on their seats. Unless you really don’t mind having them just for fun. But if the relationship is for keeps, then try to avoid the following things;
- Do you love hanging out with friends for drinks, especially hard stuff? Tone it down a little, and if you have to, wouldn’t you mind not letting him know what you are doing? You don’t want him to see his future children’s mother showing the world what a guzzler she is. Men would want to show his friends and acquaintances a ‘woman material’ a woman he can entrust as a model to his children. If you are a social drinker, still, keep it to yourself. When together how about you just make an order for a soft drink or a glass of white wine. (I can read your mind on this: but I tell you the truth, true man will choose a sober woman over a drinker).
Kindly note: I am not being judgmental, but speaking from a point that I see things, I might not be 100% right on this, but men would prefer a woman who doesn’t show them from the onset that she drinks to a woman who blatantly show. Even if he is a guzzler himself. If you want a potential husband and not a player, then go slow if you are one. Or better still let him not be in the know.
Men would rather hang out with mistresses or a ‘just for fun’ woman, a woman he doesn’t have commitments to. He will let her drink herself silly only to have his cake and eat it at the same time. He won’t mind how much you can drink and probably might cheer you on as they make you a topic behind your back.
- Do you fancy clubbing? Do it as much as you want while not engaged. When you get that man, you can do it with him, but let him not feel like you are a real competitor in the field of clubbing. Men want to come back to a woman in the house and not an empty house simply because his woman is still shouting some musician’s name and waving their hands back-and-forth to the rhythm.
- Seek wisdom from God, wisdom is a gem that makes even the hardest of hearts melt with love. With wisdom, you will know what to say, when to say, and how to say it. What to do; If you don’t have wisdom; James 1:5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault”. Seek and it shall be given unto you. Those who seek diligently get.
- Do not lead the conversation
Someone once said, there is too much learning in being silent. The book of James 1:19 is in agreement with this phrase. Kindly note, the silence spoken herein is not of timidity but of ‘knowing what to say, and at what time to say it.’ Do not be hasty in your speeches.
Allow your lover to speak, with that, your silence will aid you know their thoughts: By letting him lead the conversation will make them dominate the conversation as you study him. Men like to dominate and feel superior. Feminists should not read too much in this text. What I actually mean is; women are emotional beings, therefore, they tend to speak a thousand words against a hundred for men. When you dominate the conversation, be rest assured to miss vital information from the man.
You want to learn him, you can only achieve this by more listening than talking. Ask leading questions and give closed answers. With that, you are likely to intrigue him. (This is written with a hope that a woman wants a man better than herself, a man she can hold a longer conversation and still make it worthwhile).
Choose your words carefully. Do not be too generous with information. Do not rant about your previous relationships. Make him feel like he is the very first man in your life. Base this relationship to be on you two only.
- Focus on his strengths
The greatest weapon to making a man do extra ordinary things is when complimented. Men have the power to thrive when they receive compliments from their better half. And the opposite is true. Focus on his strengths let him know how great he is even when he is not. It will make him an achiever.
A man adores a woman who makes him feel like a king he so longs to be. A man’s ego is one that needs massaging. If you do it right, you might just land yourself in his top-to-do list.
- Be a submissive woman
Men are naturally domineering characters. But wait, that is how God made them, women are persuaded to be submissive. Submission does not equate to slavery. Instead, submission is letting the man take his position as a man and a woman fits hers as the woman she should be. The distinction is as distinct as androgen is for men and estrogen is for women.
Submission does not mean, you let the man trample on over you. Instead, make him appreciate you in his life. Submission automatically attracts humility and love. Love your man but please, let him not discover just how much you love him, especially if you love him more than he does you. Men are naturally competing beings. They want to get things the hard way. Let him fight for your love. Do not be afraid, but at times, try and put him pending.
This will increase his appetite in you. Let him wait, you can fake some busy-ness, be in long meetings, go for fellowship and make him wait. Do not jump into picking that phone call in the first ring. Play hard to get even when you are dying to hear his voice.
When all is said and done, the bottom line is, God is the initiator of marriage, and He makes it right at His own time. Pray to God, tell Him what you want. Be candid with God. Ask and it shall be given to you. If you walk in the right path with God, He will give you the right person, the person might not be what you hoped for, but he will be the best for you. Remember, God knows what we deserve and as His word says; He knows the plans that He has for us, a plan not to harm us but for prosperity. Good luck in finding your rib.