As Martin Luther put it “There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.”
Hence it would be prudent to accord marriage as the best thing that ever happened after existence. Feeling loved and having to be loved is incomprehensible. So, when your marriage is crumbling under your arms, the best you can do is to salvage it. But how? You may ask.
Below are some of the incredible ways to save a crumbling marriage.
Communication is a vital tool in a marriage setup. Couples should coin the art of rightly communicating their feelings to their partners. It is advisable that couples avoid sweeping ‘small talks’ that hurt their feelings, under the carpet and or assume them since they are a real time bomb in the marriage. When cues and feelings are not well communicated, the hurting partner might slip into heartache without the other’s knowledge hence, one should strive to correct their partner and air their feelings freely.
It is difficult to be calm when emotions flare. Just like a boat cannot be steady in a tumultuous sea. The rougher the sea, the rockier the boat. It might be hard to consider your partner’s feelings especially when anger and resentment creep in. fortunately only you can control your emotions.
By being calm, you’ll possibly calm or control the other person’s flaring emotions unless they are physically torturous. Otherwise, try to be the sober one. Answer or speak to your partner with sobriety and calmness of your voice however hurt you may feel.
Try to be sensitive to their emotions. Run through your mind what could make them act the way they do or did. It will assist you evaluate your areas of weakness.
Every human being of a sound mind would wish to be respected. This is a vital recipe in a functional marriage. A partner would be up the moon with a full knowledge of their partner’s respect unto them. Partners should avoid bashing their loved one both in public and private in ways likely to suggest they are looking down upon them.
If in any way respect has been lost in a union, partners should strive to redeem it. In order to save the marriage. Otherwise it might prove futile to salvage a marriage without an ounce of respect.
Reminisce the love.
What do you or did you love most in your partner? Sometimes it’s good to reminisce the good old days. That which made you tick. This might sound unrealistic especially when one utterly feels hurt- it could be infidelity- but someone once said, ‘every bad thing has a good side and every good thing has a bad side.’ It might be therapeutic to think through those things in your partner that made you have those impish smile, goose bumps and a feeling of wanting to see them every second they were away from you.