Loneliness is the lack of fulfillment, it is the ability of one to feel empty, devoid of any valuable thing. Loneliness can drain both emotionally and physically. It is a monster that deprives one of happiness and can be a sublet to depression.
Let’s consider these two types of loneliness :
- Loneliness that stem from lack of self-awareness
Naturally, human beings are social creatures. Meaning we get our satisfaction through meaningful relations and interactions.
Loneliness can emanate from an inward void. An emptiness that is so hollow. This monster, as we will later discuss in the paragraphs to come; does not only mean lack of social, economic, and or material achievements but it can also mean a lack of self-awareness.
let me explain; there are so many of us who have achieved a lot according to societal standards but have unfortunately chosen the way of the rope as a result of loneliness.
So many people live a pretentious life. A life of a bubbly being, of a perceived self actualized. While indeed some are happy and have found fulfillment in their lives and what they do, some on the other hand, struggle with their own monsters.
This monster that come to haunt a little late. The monster of self identification. It is quite easy to live up-to other people’s expectations. While neglecting your own desires, your own identification.
In other words, living a lie when trying to prove a point. This is possible when you try to make others think you have it all under control. Unfortunately, such characters have a hollowness- a void so deep that yearns for something beyond the beholder.
Living according to other people’s expectations, is a sure way in which one can experience a weary sense of loneliness. It is worthwhile racing towards economic and financial stability; (quite a worth dreaming) of being financially relevant among our peers, but as we do so, let us not forget the most viable point of self awareness, of personal, inner growth. Understanding what our true purpose is, what we want and our sense of satisfaction.
Ever heard of millionaires who chose the way of the rope? those that leave you wondering why on earth someone with such great achievements and massive public liking would do such an absurd thing?! A TUMULTUOUS SENSE OF EMPTINESS. An emptiness that all the bustling of life could not quench, even the stashed millions dollars in various account rescue.
Please don’t get me wrong. Wealth accumulation, achieving highest social stratification is the best thing that can happen to an individual in their waking life. But as we run the race, let’s work on self worth, on self identification, reflect on your own self first. What is that you want, what makes you happy, what is it that you’d rather do a million times even when everyone else is not? Learn to identify with yourself, your strengths and shortcomings. For there are things we must face in this world, as long as we are still its sojourners; as life is progressive, so is everything in us:- our minds grow, emotions and physical self. Before all these catch up with you; wealth, youth, intelligence, priority, popularity, good intentions, acquaintances, and or success. Please be armed with self awareness in order not to drown in denial and self pity.
Or else, proverbs http://proverbs 5:10
“lest strangers feast on your wealth and your toil enrich the house of another”, be your portion.
- Loneliness stemmed from lack
Our second type of loneliness is one that is mostly experienced by most of us in one way or another. This is one that is stemmed out of lack. It could be lack of; money, love, child, et cetera.
Truth be told, having an empty love life is the most difficult thing to go through. Going back home to an empty house, a quiet dining, a cold bed is an awful experience some of us go through in our daily lives.
To draw from the Genesis story in the Holy Bible; God saw that man was lonely, and God made a woman to make man complete for companionship.
Unless it’s not a priority to you, one should marry or get married. Especially in these uncertain times of Covid-19 pandemic, loneliness tends to intensify. One needs someone to share their fears with, hopes, desires and or milestones. Some
Most people are unable to cope with the instability caused by the said pandemic. Sleeping, eating, surfing and watching might lead to loads of stress to those who love fun-filled activities, meeting friends, nature walk and physical contacts. If these denials are coupled with loneliness, then it might be easy for one to lose their mind and probably cave into untold depression.
Two are better than one. Two are able to conquer a lot that one could not raise a finger at. Love is the most fulfilling asset a person can have. Quality relationships are fulfilling. They create an inner glow and a sense of happiness
How then can we cope with these two types of loneliness?
The following are some of the ways in which you can cope with mentioned loneliness:
- Find something you enjoy doing, and do it. You should, at all times, be your number one priority. Fulfill the desires of your heart without wanting to please others so much. DO YOU
- Focus on things that bring out the best in you. You are your only version, be the very best of it. Have a self-retreat where you listen to your inner self, find a “me-time” and shut off the world for a moment for your own self rejuvenation.
- Put more effort in meaningful relationships. Only those that makes you a better you. Keep off any negativity from people you call friends. If they don’t add value in your life, then drop them like a hot pan.
- Do exercise, both physical and mental
- And lastly, if you have the capability, then join a class.
May you all keep safe and may the Almighty God protect you and your loved ones.